Our days are becoming somewhat of a routine. Throughout the day there are outbursts of disrespect and screaming. Then each night, between 8:30 pm and 9:00 pm our daughter will storm into our bedroom while my wife is trying to sleep, just to start a fight. Last night, I refused to be drawn in to the chaos, I kept calm and didn't say a word. Don't think for a minute that I wasn't chomping at the bit to say something, but I didn't. Even though she was disturbing my sleeping wife and slamming my bedroom door repeatedly.
We told our daughter several times throughout the day that 9:30 pm is bedtime and her lamp needed to be off. At 9:30 she still didn't have her lamp off, I finished picking up some things in the kitchen and at 9:45 pm I told her that we had agreed on 9:30 bedtime and she needed to turn her lamp off. She told me she was putting away clothes and would be done in a minute. I went to my room to get ready for bed and came back at 10:05 pm and the lamp was off.
Today, we did not have a lot of conflict, mostly because the kids next door were over and she was playing outside. This evening, like clockwork, she started a fight. My wife was in bed at 9:00 pm and she stormed down the hallway to my room and began screaming at her. She insisted that she be able to call her friend, knowing good and well she has lost her phone privileges until Sunday. She screamed and my wife and slammed my door a few times more. She then stormed out to the front porch to cool off. It was 9:15 and I knew she didn't have a watch. I calmly walked out to the porch and told her that she needed to be inside by 9:25 pm so that she could brush her teeth and be in bed by 9:30 pm. Since she didn't currently know what time it was, I had brought a small alarm clock out for her so that she could have her cool down time and still be in bed at 9:30 pm as we had agreed on. As I was walking back in the house, she said "I don't need a stupid clock" and threw the clock at me. I calmly walked into the house and didn't say a word. At 9:28 pm, I told her it was time to come in. When she came in, she immediately stormed back down to my bedroom and began screaming at my wife, before making 4 trips to the bathroom and then to her bedroom. It is now 10:10 pm and she is back in my bedroom yelling at my wife.
After storming out of our room, she went back outside to the front porch at 10:23 pm and refused to come inside. She finally went to her room and turned the lights out at 11:00 pm.